Trauma and hurt in life

This is part of something I wrote a couple weeks or so ago as I pondered the hurt and suffering of so many I know. These are my thoughts about sorrows and hurts believers (and non-believers) can suffer through life. And I know a lot of people are suffering in the climate of today’s world.

We have all known different types of Trauma. It affects us all differently, (even if we may tend to keep it inside), but I believe He wants to use all things and work them together for good, even the bad, even the harm the enemy might have meant for us, even our mistakes (Gen 50:20).

Just living in this sinful world can be traumatic for us. We’ve already watched so much of it for years, but as of late, seems we’ve seen things we’ve never experienced before. We feel helpless to do anything about it, and that can lead to hopelessness. Brethren across the world has suffered tremendous losses, and we’ve been at relative ease in some ways. But as we see people lose their businesses, their jobs, their livelihood, their homes, some their lives, it has caused us trauma and loss too. We don’t know how to help so many. But we pray. Know that it matters because of who we pray to.

Trauma can even be caused by a sin in our lives that we might be holding onto (been there, done that, and will sin until I die). Heb 12:1-2.

It can also be the trauma of sin that someone else has perpetuated upon us (I can raise my hand to that, and I am very sure most can here). Can be as simple as the daily meanness in the world, or it might be more far more serious. Some we know have taken their lives. Yesterday someone shared 3 from her place of business had suffered from family committing suicide. Today I saw the loss of another’s family member to suicide. The devil lives to kill, steal and destroy God’s Creation, but Jesus is the one who gave His life for us and wants us to live more abundantly.

In the front line battle trauma we see not only the enemy shooting fiery darts, but sometimes there is the so-called ‘friendly fire’ (experienced that too). But unlike its namesake, some of these seem to desire to hurt you, some may be accidental.

Maybe you have walked through a Judas betrayal type of trauma. I have gone through that, and it’s been shocking each time. But I have to take solace in the fact it was not unto death like Jesus. I think many have experienced betrayal whether by friends or family, it is awful. Jesus knows your hurt.

Then there is the trauma we can experience in loss that seems to suck the very breath out of us that keeps us alive. The loss of a great love. The loss of a child, a baby, a full-grown son. The loss of a precious sibling. Or our loss of a parent(s). Things seem so much easier when they are here on this earth. Loss even of a beloved grandparent, aunt, uncle, nephew or niece. Or loss of a dear life-long friend. How about even the loss of our beloved pets who have been so loyal and been family to us? Many times from all my losses too early, I felt like I was going to die, but this Psalm words well how I’ve felt more than once.

Whom have I in heaven but You?
And there is none upon earth that I desire besides You.
My flesh and my heart fail;
But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.  
Ps 73:25-26

Unloved?

Have you experienced the kind of hurt or trauma from being unloved? Maybe you feel like Leah did in the Bible? Do you know the story? Leah was unloved by her husband, he wanted her sister instead and was tricked into marrying her. Even so, God saw, and cared, and He blessed her with children, and from Leah came Judah (Gen 29:31-35). And Jesus came from the lineage of Judah. Jesus deeply knows what it is like to not be loved by His own (Is 53:3; John 1:11). I know some of you know this sorrow.

Jesus is a Man of sorrows and is acquainted with much grief in His own walk here (Is 53:1-6). He is such a compassionate and loving God, one who stores all of the tears we shed. One who satiates our weary souls, and replenishes our sorrowful soul (Jer 31:25). What a Savior…

Keep your eyes on Jesus

How about the trauma we can experience when we take our eyes off of Jesus? Fear, or even the lack of direction can seem to drown us after awhile. Could be we are just distracted by this world we live in. But suddenly our eyes are on the storms around us and our attention is anywhere but placing steady faith in Him. I think of the disciples on the boat in the storm with Jesus, so we are not alone in forgetting. Fear floods in. Panic, anxiety, lack of faith, you name it, we can all go there. We need to remember, time to submit again to God, resist the enemy and let Jesus calm the storms, reminding us that He is with us. Our walk is not finished. It’s a daily thing. Just get back up again if you’ve fallen off the bike. 

We are fickle creatures in some ways, as we so quickly forget that Jesus calms the storm, and that even the wind and waves obeyed Him (Matt 8:23-27; Ps 107:25-31). Can you imagine being those same disciples that saw that He healed the sick, blind, lame and lepers, and yet at the first toss of a wave we forget? Jesus had to keep reprimanding them, ‘O ye of little faith’. (see here) Or when He came back from the dead, and He called them ‘foolish ones, slow of heart to believe all the prophets had spoken?’ (Raising my hand again in sad understanding of doing this over and over and over again throughout my life).

We live in a world brimming over with all manner of sin and evil. It vexes us, which causes sorrow, pain, sickness not only in our bodies, but can create fear and havoc in our minds, emotions, lives. We are dying daily, (hopefully to ourselves). I have no good advice except try to turn away from looking at these things for awhile. Or possibly it might be laying aside the sin that so easily besets us and turning our eyes upon Jesus, the Author and Finisher of our faith. Keeping our minds stayed on Him and our sword sharpened and with us (Heb 12:1-2; Is 26:3; Heb 4:12). Praying for and asking others to pray for you. Take heart knowing who is in charge of all of this.

“Blessed be the name of God forever and ever,
For wisdom and might are His.
And He changes the times and the seasons;
He removes kings and raises up kings;
He gives wisdom to the wise
And knowledge to those who have understanding.
He reveals deep and secret things;
He knows what is in the darkness,
And light dwells with Him.  Daniel 2:21-22

We are frail creatures, God knows our frame and He pities us as a Father does His children. He knows that we are dust (Ps 103:13-14).

And He loves us <3 <3 <3

God is for us

Remember, even in our sin, frailties, weaknesses, failures — or tribulation visited upon us by others, He is for us. If God is for us, who can be against us? He will repay with tribulation those who trouble us — frightening for them, enough for me to pause as I much as I may want to zing them, I think on that terrible day and end up praying for them instead, knowing He desires none should perish (2 Thess 1:6-10).

I think we HAVE to remember, we NEED His Word, it is our NECESSARY FOOD. It’s how our minds are renewed. It’s our sword in the battle. (Job 23:12; John 17:17; Rom 12:2; Heb 4:12; Eph 6:10-20)

Feet time

In a war, those who go to the front line (if they survive) are always pulled away to replenish themselves with rest, with food and time with loved ones. I call it ‘feet time’, which is simply time with Jesus hearing His Word. Even Jesus drew away from the crowds to rest and spend time in prayer and talking to His Father. We get busy in the battle we face in this world and sometimes we forget pieces of our armor. We need the Lord, and we desperately need the encouragement of His Word to strengthen our body, to revive us when our soul is clinging to the dust. To encourage our hearts. To tell us which way to go, to the left, or to the right. (Ps 119:25,28; Is 30:20-21). 

All throughout we are encouraged to not just hear His Word, but to do it, or take heed to it. That second part is harder, but more freeing (Luke 8:21; Ps 119:9; John 8:30-31; James 1:21-25).

Keep your mind stayed on Him (Is 26:3). Remember He has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind (2 Tim 1:7).

Love you all, take heart, we have this treasure in earthen vessels (2 Cor 4). Fight the good fight of faith, and stand in your armor, knowing that your brethren have suffered too in various ways and He will bring us through it.

 

Want to be sure where you are going when you die? My husband asked some friends that question right before he died.

Read here.

These are not all of Scriptures I above, I tried to link some. I’m sure you all knew or recognized most of them, but will share some which I might not of linked (not in order).

Ps 107:25-31; Ps 89:9; Matt. 8:23-27; Luke 8:23-25; John 10:10-11; Ps 56:8; Heb 12:1-2; Luke 10:38-42, 1 Tim 2:1-6; 2 Thess 1:6-10; Ps 119:25-28; Ps 103:13-14; Is 30:20-21, Matt 4:1-11; Job 23:12; Heb 4:12; Rom 12:2; Eph 6:10-20; Heb 4:12; Ps 107:25-31; 1 John 4:4

 

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